Marriage

Pregnancy/children together

Coparenting children from other partnerships

Sharing pet(s)

Having a key

Cohabitation

Home ownership

Prioritization over other partners

Relationship labels

Planning for future

Expectation of long term involvement

Commitment to working through challenges

Commitment to relationship maintenance

Power of attorney/wills

Support through health challenges

Expressing happiness and joy

Offering support in hard times

Sharing vulnerable feelings

Saying "I love you"

Sharing stories about past

Sharing hopes for future

Knowing personal likes/dislikes (eg fav foods)

Using pet names

Sharing about mental health challenges

Supporting mental health work

Meeting metamors (partners' other partners)

Meeting children

Meeting parents/siblings/extended family

Meeting friends

Spending time as a couple with friends/family

Positive relationships with metamors

Serving as +1 for social events

Presenting as a couple in public settings

Following on social media

Presenting as a couple on social media

Presenting as a couple in professional settings

Joint vacations with family/metamors

Physical affection

PDA

Compatible sex drives

Sexual chemistry

Orgasms

Kissing

Oral sex

Manual sex (fingering)

Mutual masturbation

Penetration/PIV

Using sex toys

Condom/barrier use

Regular STI testing

Kinky stuff

Threesomes or group sex

Daily or frequent check ins

Texting

Phone / video calls

Discussing work and hobbies

Discussing family, partners, relationships

Discussing politics and current events

Ability to express disagreements or hurt feelings

Ability to address and resolve conflict

Radical honesty

Shared bank account(s)

Mutual contributions to vacation/activity fund

Financial support

Large gifts

Complete financial integration

Regularly scheduled time together

Date nights

Spending the night

Shared hobbies or activities

Vacations together as couple

Calendar mgt/scheduling initiation

Balance of time together and apart

Support to pursue independent interests

Maintaining independent friendships

Maintaining independent romantic relationships

Equal distribution of relationship power

Alone time